Back when I was binge eating, I thought I had a great relationship with myself. I thought I was awesome and I liked being alone with myself. I thought that was pretty much all I needed!
But I was wrong. My relationship with myself was good, but there was so much more I could have been doing. I know this because had I done what it takes to have a better relationship with myself then I wouldn’t have been in that mess and done what I did.
I learned that it takes more than just liking myself.
When you have an amazing relationship with yourself, you’ll be less likely to do things that are harmful to yourself.
Just like if you have an amazing relationship with someone else you’re less likely to be harmful towards them.
So what does it take to have an amazing relationship?
Here’s a few things: acceptance, trust, vulnerability, honesty, kindness, forgiveness, and love.
Do you have these with yourself? Some? None?
Really take a look at each one and see where you’re at with yourself.
Do you accept yourself for who you are? Do you accept the circumstances of your life? Or do you try and argue against these realities or wish they were different?
Do you trust yourself?
Do you get vulnerable with yourself? Do you allow yourself to think and feel the way you do or do you close off and eat to ignore your thoughts and feelings?
Are you honest with yourself? Do you tell yourself the truth or deceptive lies that lead you to binge?
Are you kind with yourself if you eat too much or do you beat yourself up for it?
Do you forgive yourself when you make mistakes or make those mistakes mean bad things about yourself?
Do you love yourself? Like yourself? Hate yourself?
In the coming weeks, I’m going to explore each of these. I want to show you how they affect you in your own life, how you can bring them into your self-relationship, and how much better off you’ll be if you do.
Until then, answer the questions above so you know where you need to do some work. If you want to get going on this work right away, then let’s work on it together.
