I’ve been diving deep into how to build an amazing relationship with yourself by focusing on one related topic each week for a few weeks.
This week, I’m keeping it short and sweet and I’m talking about kindness.
If you eat more than you would like to, or if you binge, what kinds of things so you say to yourself?
Are you mean? Do you beat yourself up?
Talking down to yourself and hating on yourself is not at all useful.
All it does is make you feel worse and when you feel badly, you’re more likely to keep treating yourself badly.
You may think you’re being honest with yourself, but you’re not at all. Anything you say to yourself from a negative, demeaning place is just crap you’re making up about yourself.
“I’m disgusting,” “I blew it big time,” “I’m a failure.”
Stop it. No you’re not and no you didn’t.
You just ate too much. That’s it.
If someone you love and have an amazing relationship with binged, would you say those things to them? Unlikely.
You’d be kind. You’d be compassionate. You’d try to make them feel better.
You wouldn’t push them down further into their negative feelings.
Do the same for yourself. Speak nicely to yourself.
Accept what you did. It happened. Don’t make it all worse.
“I binged, and I’m okay.”
“I binged and I’m still a good person.”
Be kind to yourself.