What does it mean to be vulnerable?
When you’re vulnerable with another person, it means you let them see your crap. You share with them all your emotions and feelings. You share with them your thoughts, your struggles, your hardships.
You don’t hold back and you don’t hide.
Being vulnerable is not easy. What is easy, is holding everything in and instead of expressing yourself, you stuff it all down with food.
Actually, I wouldn’t say that’s easier, but in our minds it is in the moments when we’re feeling emotional pain.
How often would you say you’re vulnerable with other people?
What about with yourself?
I’ve been talking with you about your self-relationship these last few weeks and being vulnerable with yourself is huge.
It’s amazing how much we ignore ourselves, how much we don’t regard ourselves, and how we don’t pay attention to ourselves.
We don’t take time to listen to ourselves when we’re having a hard time. We instead just try to push our thoughts away or talk down to ourselves for being this way.
We don’t take the time to experience our feelings and allow ourselves to feel. We instead just numb them with food.
Being vulnerable with yourself means you’re opening up to yourself instead of closing off.
It means you share with yourself what’s going on with you.
It’s important to be vulnerable with yourself because then you get to see all the muck. I know you probably don’t want to see the muck, but honestly, it’s there. You may find some things you don’t like or aren’t proud of, and that’s okay. Really, it’s okay. This goes back to acceptance – accepting what is because it’s your current truth.
There actually is an upside to finding all these things within you and it’s that once you’re aware of it all then you’re able to work on it.
You can’t change something unless you’re willing to look at it. So take a look.
It’s your thoughts and feelings that are the cause of your binge eating. If you don’t allow yourself to see what they are, then you’ll never be able to change them. If you’re not able to change them then you won’t be able to stop binge eating.
Spend time with yourself looking into what’s really going on with you. Do a 5 minute free write where you let out everything you’re thinking and feeling. Then look at it with curiosity and compassion.The compassion part is very important.
You’d be much more likely to be vulnerable with another person if you think they’d be compassionate with you. So be compassionate with yourself instead of being judgmental.
Whatever you’re thinking and feeling, I want you to know that it’s seriously okay. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. This is just where your mind is at right now. You can work on changing it, but if you don’t take some time to expose yourself to yourself, then you’ll never know where to start or be able to find a solution.
Don’t hide from your struggles, don’t ignore your crap, look right at them and listen to them.
Open up to yourself.