How do you speak to yourself on a daily basis?
Do you say more kind things, or mean things?
If you find yourself saying more means things, why are you choosing to speak to yourself that way?
How you speak to yourself will greatly affect how you feel and how you treat yourself.
If you constantly tell yourself you’re disgusting, or worthless, or weak, then that is how you’re going to feel. When you feel those ways, you’re more likely to binge or emotionally eat than if you feel good, full of worth, or strong and you’re sabotaging your relationship with yourself.
Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you have and it’s not going to be good if you’re constantly speaking negatively to yourself.
Think about your relationships with other people. If someone talked down to you all the time, and spoke negatively of you, you’d be less likely to do nice things for them and treat them well.
If you’re talking to yourself that way, thinking you’re disgusting, worthless, and weak, hating yourself, and beating yourself up, you’ll be less likely to do nice things for yourself and more likely to give in when you feel an urge to binge.
Why would you attempt to not follow through on a binge if you’re weak or if you hate yourself already? You’d think, “What’s the point?”
How you think about yourself, and how you speak to yourself, will determine how you feel and those feelings will determine what actions you take.
The good news is, you get to choose how you speak to yourself and what you think about yourself.
So why are you choosing to believe you’re disgusting? Or weak? Or worthless?
All of those beliefs are not facts, they are choices, and ones that are going to lead you down a road you don’t want to be taking.
I repeat, they are not facts. Facts can’t be disputed and I will indeed dispute any of those statements, along with any other negative thing you say about yourself.
None of it is true.
When you choose to speak negatively about yourself, to yourself, you’re going to take negative actions.
When you speak to yourself in kind, compassionate, positive ways, you will do kind and positive things for yourself.
Pay attention to what you say to yourself regularly that’s leading you to eat. Then figure out what you could say instead that’s not going to lead you to eat.
Everything we do begins with a thought, choose ones that are going to make you feel good about yourself, not ones that make you feel badly. Then when that urge to binge eat hits, you’ll be much less likely to give in to it.