Feelings don’t just pop up out of nowhere.
You don’t just all of a sudden feel angry.
Something happened to create that feeling and that something was a thought you had.
It’s not the guy who bumped into you, it’s not what your boss said, it’s not what your friend didn’t do, it’s the thought you had about all of these things.
How you feel is a direct result of what you’re thinking.
Say you ate an entire bag of chips. It is was it is. You don’t have any feelings about what you did, until you have a thought about it.
You could think “I’m a fat pig, I can’t believe I just ate the whole damn bag” and feel guilty and shameful.
Or you could think “I ate the whole bag and it’s ok”, which would maybe create a more neutral feeling, but it’s better than guilt and shame.
Or hey, you could eat the whole bag for dinner one night because you don’t feel like cooking and think, “That was a satisfying dinner.” Way different feeling coming from here, maybe even joy.
Same amount of food, different thoughts, different feelings.
It’s not the amount of food you ate that’s making you feel bad, its how you think about what you did.
You can create any feeling you want by choosing to think a thought that creates it.
You can choose “I hate myself” or “It’s alright.”
You can feel horrible or fine. Your choice.
Don’t blame the food, it didn’t do anything to you. You did it, you thought about it, you felt it.
It’s your responsibility to decide how you want to think to create the feeling you decide you want. The power is in your hands. Or your thoughts rather.